“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves”Carl Jung.
There are so many roads to the truth…and this way is one of the easiest yet difficult to navigate, especially at first.
How does this relate to astrology?
Your birth (astrology) chart is like a psychological map, as well as a map of your external environment and events. It can show us what we reject, find difficult, hence tend to disown..all those bits and pieces of ourselves we find difficult to embrace and own need to find expression, so we relate to them as if they are external, projecting them onto others to re-experience them Until we finally surrender. Sounds complicated? It doesn’t need to be! (get your free birth chart at astroallstarz.com/birthchart)
Jung found astrology a valuable tool and utilized it to better understand his most difficult cases.
Here’s how Dr. Nima, developer of the Cognitive Somatic psychotherapy ‘The Overview Method’ describes it.
WHAT PISSES YOU OFF IN OTHERS?
People can be so irritating. The things they do.
One of the most irritating things I saw throughout my career was this concept of people feeling “entitled”.
I saw it every day in my Chiropractic practice. People getting sick and injured and feeling like the world owed them something. Car insurance compensation, workers compensation, boss, family—you name it. The world OWED them something. This button of entitlement I saw in others left a very bitter taste in my mouth.
It wasn’t until very recent where I realized it was myself I was looking at. Entitlement in my profession. Entitlement with my staff. Entitlement in my relationships. Entitlement with my ex-wife. Entitlement with finances.
The most humbling realization of my life. Carl Jung’s words slapping me right across the face.
This was exactly why I was so triggered when I saw it.
What’s been triggering you in other people? What do you actually DESPISE when you see in others?
I’m going to go so far to say that the greater the trigger—the more blind you are that you’re doing it yourself.
One of my clients was so angry with her mother for cheating on her father when she was a child (she witnessed it)—that her resentment was blinding her from the realization that she had done the same with her own husband years ago. She was judging herself.
Does lying trigger you?
Look closely—where are you lying to yourself? Your partner? Your family? Your taxes?
I asked this question in a workshop one day—and the lady who answered “I hate it when people are so disruptive!”
It just so happens that this woman was causing the most disruption during the entire workshop—papers falling all over the place—coming in late—constantly having something to contradict everything that was said.
(It was irritating the crap out of me ☺ )
Take a look at what’s pissing you off in others.
Use it as a mirror to understanding yourself.
The whole point is to become more conscious. More aware. To change the perception of superiority and self-righteousness and separation from each other to the humbling possibility that we are in fact, one. That there is no separation.
That when we start to see bits of ourselves in others, we have a greater chance of solving the divisions that are tearing our world apart. We approximate rather than divide.
Awareness actually heals.
And it starts with observing our own reactions to things—and going INSIDE rather than out.
AKA (Ass Kicking Action step) for today:
Observe what you are triggered by and call yourself out on it.
You are loved beloved,
Vanessa | ASTRO ALL-STARZ